The Power Of Rituals For An HSP

Kathryn NulfEmotional And Mental Health, Stress26 Comments

There was a good year where I listened to the same album every night as I drifted off to sleep. I didn’t get tired of it. I loved knowing what to expect. I knew the order of the songs, the way things started and the way the music progressed. I loved having something familiar there for me night after night before sleep. It was my way of being there for myself again and again. The songs had meaning, sure. I felt their melodies more than the words though, deep to my core. At the time, I did not know what highly sensitive person (HSP) was. I just knew that I went through life feeling things very intensely. I loved to know what to expect. I loved familiarity as I was in a strange place away at college. And listening to the same album every night was my normal. It felt perfectly natural to me. It was when I shared it with others that I got a “Huh?” kind of response. I don’t know why, but I thought they would be able to relate, as if they were doing it, too. It just felt so natural to me that I assumed it did for everyone else. Why HSPs Need Rituals For HSPs, having daily rituals in their lives can help them find balance feel at one with their world, instead of just being overwhelmed by it most of the time. Having that album play each night before sleep was my start to embracing rituals in my life. Rituals can have a profound impact on us HPSs: they calm and ground us, soothe the spirit, slow us down, remind us to live in the present moment, nourish our soul, and remind us that we are responsible for our own well-being. Think about … Read More

The Value Of Tension

Maria HillCreativity, Emotional And Mental Health, Personal Development, Stress6 Comments

I think tension can be good. It is not my favorite thing in life, and as a highly sensitive person it can be challenging, but it  has also made my life better in some ways. Tension Seeks Resolution Tension seeks resolution is truth that I have learned from Robert Fritz through his class, Structures, which teaches how to use the creative process to create what you want in life. One thing I know about as a highly sensitive person is tension. Like many other HSPs who have nuanced perceptions, I often see what others do not, which naturally creates tension. It leads to a lot of questions: What do I do with what I see? What do I say? What is my responsibility? When do allow events to unfold without interfering? When should I intervene? These are all hard questions for a highly sensitive person to answer. Even harder when it feels constant. Is Tension Dangerous? I have experienced tension my whole life so I almost feel like an expert on tension. When I was young other in my life promoted the idea that tension was bad, that it was a sign that something was wrong. So if someone else was unhappy I was the cause. It meant that I was creating pain and unhappiness for others, which as an HSP I did not want to do. I found this thinking to be a little crazy since I could only do my best and you can’t read anyone else’s mind. Nonetheless, I lived in an environment where there was an expectation of constant pleasure. The weird thing was that in spite of all these desires and demands everyone was miserable and it did not take much to upset someone. As a creative HSP that was a huge problem since I do not know how … Read More

Why Impatience Is SO Bad For You

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health, Personal Development, Stress8 Comments

Impatience is so bad for you. It is one of the most seductive emotional states. It is a great way to make life more difficult and relationships challenging. Impatience is like playing a child’s game of bumper cars with real life and adult consequences. Worshipping At The Altar Of Speed I find the adoration of speed in our culture to be curious. When I am going fast, I stop thinking. Speed demands focus on the task at hand and so it cannot be a time to contemplate what you are doing. To be truly effective at warp speed, you need to have contemplated, evaluated and assessed your intended actions before you engage in them, Does our cultural speedfest really allow for that? In my opinion, no. Speed For Conquest When the speed of daily life is ramped up, there are consequences. One of them is what happens with our attention and intention. When we function at a slower pace, we spend time contemplating what we are doing, what we want to do,  and what we need to do. We think about the implications of our actions, the alternative courses of action and the possibilities that our choices present. We can own our intention. When we have to go faster something has to give. What gives is usually the way we direct our attention. A high speed life makes us more task oriented and more focused on the short-term. That means that we delegate the long term to others. In doing so we disempower ourselves. Faster living means that we have been made one down almost like objects or parts on a conveyor belt. We are the wheels on the bumper cars and someone else is doing the driving. Our attention has to be elevated but we have lost our intention … Read More

An Easy Way To Discharge Stressed Out Energy

Christine LacedraEmotional And Mental Health, Stress1 Comment

  Nature is one of the most powerful and natural healing modalities available to us and yet it is largely untapped as a healing resource. We highly sensitive people are more vulnerable  to a stressed nervous system  from the high levels of stimulation that are so rampant in our western culture. Over my lifetime I have tried many modalities to relieve myself from the excessive stress out feeling I get from being ‘out’ in the world. What I have found is that Nature is the one consistent place my body, mind and spirit automatically relaxes and comes into a state of harmonious synchrony. One way nature creates this nervous system balance is by helping us to shift our attention from thinking to sensing. The sights, smells, sounds and general energy level of nature is a lot more harmonious and attractive than the loud and discordant stimuli so often found in cities, the workplace and even our homes when the T.V is on. How Your Heart Field CanRelieve Stressed Out Energy Studies have shown that when you shift to sensing you alter the electromagnetic field of your heart. This causes the heart rate to slow as well as bringing the two parts of the nervous system into a dynamic state of alert relaxation. The quickest and easiest way to bring yourself into this state which scientists call coherence is by actively seeking out that which you find attractive. Appreciation for beauty activates the heart’s energy field. Science has shown the size of the heart’s electromagnetic field is much larger than the brain’s. This means that the rest of the body and mind will entrain to it which creates that much sort after state of relaxed ease and openness. The more you practice direct perception and appreciation the more you will move … Read More

Add Love To Your Life With Abhyanga Daily Oil Massage

Maria HillAyurveda, Physical Health0 Comments

The good news is that you do not need an elephant to have a great massage. Massage is actually something that you can do for yourself every day. The massage I am referring to is an oil massage which feels luxurious – like a dose of love – and detoxes as well. Abhyanga One of the most valued daily health practices in Ayurveda is oil massage called abhyanga. Abhyanga, the Sanskrit word for oil, is the practice of pouring herbal oil on the body and massaging the  oil into the body to help restore and maintain balance. It is a daily massage practice for promoting general health or it can be part of the Ayurveda detoxification program called panchakarma. Sesame oil is the most commonly used oil for self-massage. From a health perspective according to The Ayurveda Encyclopedia, abhyanga benefits the lymphatic system which carries nutrients to and remove toxins from the cells. Increasing nourishment and reducing toxins helps highly sensitive people by supporting their sensitive nervous systems from unnecessary toxic overload. Health Benefits of Abhyanga The Ayurveda Encyclopedia lists the following additional benefits of abhyanga: reverses and prevents aging releases fatigue and stress heals and prevents nervous system disorders helps vision nourishes the body and improves sturdiness remedies insomnia promotes electrochemical balance in the body prevents dehydration in the skin strengthens nerves helps the electromagnetic field of the body strengthens the immune system by increasing antibodies. These important benefits of a daily oil massage provide help for highly sensitive people because the oil goes into the skin, tissues and the nerves providing relief for stress, insomnia and fatigue which we are all affected by. When the massage is done daily, it helps prevent the buildup of stress and nerve damage in the body. Unlike medication for stress and nerves, … Read More

7 Baby Steps For Stress Relief

Maria HillAyurveda, Emotional And Mental Health, Stress2 Comments

When we are under stress particularly severe stress, we often want to run away from it because it is so painful. Highly sensitive people struggle more than others with stress because their nervous systems are so attuned to the world around them. We pick up every hurt and dissonance, take it in and then need to process it.  The hardest part is trying to make sense of it and find a resolution when it may be beyond our control to do so. We end up not only in pain but also feeling helpless and disempowered. There is no easy solution to these problems.  But there are some steps you can take to help yourself.  Sometimes when we try to handle our stress we go to our heads when our bodies and souls are hurting.  Sometimes we reach for the ice cream or a pill.  There is no easy answer for an awake heart.  But it is our treasure and gift.  We need to see it as a shining jewel inside of us, one that is meant to be shared. Treasuring our hearts also means respecting their limits and setting healthy boundaries which sounds so easy but is a challenge for highly sensitive people with their big hearts. One way to improve your stress is to take baby steps to reduce it. Here are some ideas: meditate daily.  It helps heal stress and supports a healthy nervous system, particularly Transcendental Meditation. get exercise, since it is a great stress reducer and help protect you from disease. Yoga and walking are great choices. eat a stress reducing diet of whole grains, legumes, rice, vegetables and fruit. choose a vocation that is good for your heart. choose social companions that are also good for your heart. remove mean individuals from your life as … Read More