Starved For Passion? Top 10 Passion Killers For The Highly Sensitive Person

Kate StefansEmotional And Mental Health, Personal Development6 Comments

Many say that the opposite of love is fear. I believe that the opposite of love is apathy. In an apathetic or indifferent state, passion flat lines and numbness reigns supreme. A once technicolor life fades to black and white and well, what’s the point? If I were brutally honest with myself, I would say that wallowing in apathy is an activity that has become habitual. I tend to drop into indifference when I am subconsciously starving myself with what I call passion killers. Simply going through the motions of life is excruciating not because its painful, it aches because it does not feel like anything at all.  It’s not enough to invite passion back in. Been there, tried that. Recovering Passion From Passion Killers Passion killers are like weeds that take over our lives. If we want more passion in our lives, we must remove these so-called passion killers. Chances are, you may not even know that they exist. I didn’t. They hide deep in our subconscious minds and if you are a highly sensitive person such as myself, your predisposition to these passion killers may be higher than most. The top 10 passion killers (in no particular order), are as follows: Indecisiveness Kills Passion – I am starting with indecisiveness because as highly sensitive people we tend to be vastly irresolute, and for good reason. Sensing life on a deep level allows for a more robust vantage point making choosing anything a challenge. We often have to own and  grieve the choice we do not go with which can prevent us from moving forward with any decision at all. But here’s the thing, when we do not choose, we do not get the opportunity to stand fully behind something. We live in this wishy-washy, spiritless land of letting others … Read More

An Invitation To Intuition

Ritu KaushalCreativity, Emotional And Mental Health, Personal Development1 Comment

One day, some years back, someone very close to me said in words close to these: You are not very intuitive. I wasn’t ? That came as a complete surprise to me. Is that what she thought? That was completely opposite to how I thought of myself. I thought I was, in fact, very intuitive. And yet, she was right in her way. I had problems making decisions. I had worked at a corporate career that felt wrong for over seven years. I felt chained, confined, miserable. And my personal life lacked any stability or direction. With a huge amount of effort and inner work, I did get to a place where things started falling into place. I shifted many of my beliefs and worked through many self-harming patterns. And yet, when I looked back, especially to the dark times, times where I felt adrift, I wondered: What had gone wrong? What had happened to my intuition? Shouldn’t it have saved me? Do You Listen To Your Intuition? And yet, I do know the answer. The voice was always there. It was I who didn’t listen. Why do we override this voice? How can we listen to it better? What beliefs hold us back from turning inward to know what we need to do next? These are all questions that feel very important to me now. Answering them can help me tune in to what feels right instead of getting hooked into what merely looks right. There are some things that I have learnt and am learning about the nature of intuition that might help you too. They might clear the way to a deeper understanding of where you need to go and how to get there: Many Forms Of Intuition Our internal lives are such an unknown to many … Read More

6 Reasons Why We Need Highly Sensitive People

Maria HillCreativity, HSP Traits2 Comments

Why do we need highly sensitive people? HSPs make up approximately 20% of the population. They are people whose nervous systems are highly sensitive to external stimuli. Books like Elaine Aron’s The Highly Sensitive Person and Susan Cain’s book Quiet, are helping us to understand more about the quieter members of our world. Our culture is predominantly as an extrovert culture. Extroverts are outgoing. An extrovert culture promotes the seeking of rewards, prestige and power. Interestingly, as many as 30% of HSPs are extroverts balancing their interest in the world with a higher need for rest and rejuvenation. Highly sensitive people are often introspective which provides them with an insightful perspective that is practical and useful. This is what they bring to us: highly sensitive people see what others do not. Our extroverted world is very fast however, speed often means mistakes. HSPs notice when the energy around them feels wrong. The insights from HSPs from what they notice can protect us from the mistakes of moving too fast. highly sensitive people are often deep thinkers. They may notice important overlooked factors in a particular situation. They can observe what is working and what is not, the connects and disconnects that can lead to eventual problems. They are able to notice pitfalls and potential land mines in our plans and strategies saving us needless headaches. highly sensitive people are holistic thinkers. This means that they offer an antidote to our fragmented society. Fragmentation increases the disconnection between different parts of a group, company, or an entire society. Holistic HSPs see and act as bridges between different parts of social or economic ecology to ease and improve problem solving. HSPs have a capacity to handle complexity because of their eneregtic sensitivity, deep processing and introspection that makes them ideally suited to helping a overloaded … Read More

Trust And The Highly Sensitive Person

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health, Personal Development0 Comments

Because we are all vulnerable, trust is one of the most important issues for human beings and especially for highly sensitive people who have a lot of awareness from all of the energy they take in. What Is Trust? According to the Free Dictionary, trust has many different faces. It is: about individual behavior and character as in the reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence. about expectations: confident expectation of something or confidence in the certainty of future payment for property or goods received about beliefs: one upon which a person relies: God is my trust. about keeping confidences: being entrusted with information, or valuables of some kind about position: the obligation or responsibility imposed on a person in whom confidence or authority is placed: a position of trust. a position in which trust is necessary and assumed: the fiduciary relationship of trustee or the legal structure that protects property of some kind. commercial organizations set up to create monopolies (now illegal). Trust, therefore, serves many functions: it is an act of friendship. When we consider the needs of others we are acting to create social trust through friendship. it means we can be accepted and heard. Trust is a vote for the good in ourselves, others and life. When we see and believe in the good we are more open to ourselves and others. trust helps us develop confidence in ourselves. When we learn we develop skills and as a result are able to believe in ourselves. When we discover that we can learn one skill, we know that we can learn another skill and so our confidence grows. it is social glue that makes it easier for people to work and live together it can promote prosperity when institutions and businesses are trustworthy because it means … Read More

Is Contentment Possible?

Kathryn NulfEmotional And Mental Health, Stress19 Comments

Do ever get asked a question that hits you like a ton of bricks? Years ago a good friend of mine asked me something that I’ll never forget. At the time I was pretty much all over the place. Feeling emotions very intensely, even taking on other people’s stuff. It was a huge energy suck. At the time I had no idea of my HSP trait. I just thought I was a little crazy. So when I was asked this question it caught me off guard. Like somebody had “found me out.” “Are you ever just content?” Of Course I Feel Contentment! My first thought when I heard this was to scream out and defend myself: “Yes! Of course I am!” But I knew it wasn’t true. So I stood there, kind of stunned. You see, I was truly all over the map with my emotions. I was in college, stressed to the core, and had zero ways to deal with it. What was so eye opening about hearing this question was that it brought me face to face with just how stressed I was. I was either really happy, or down in the dumps. There wasn’t much of a healthy middle ground. Even though I was feeling exposed in that moment, I was grateful that someone had the guts to check in with me at that level. Where Is Your Contentment? Now I want to check in with you. Do you ever just feel contentment? Are you able to be with what is in your life, while still dreaming up whatever is next for you? Being stressed can make us feel stuck because we are either reaching for the past or the future. Living on an emotional rollercoaster can keep us playing the “up and down” game – happy … Read More

Why Vulnerability Will Make You Successful

Nicole TaffsEmotional And Mental Health, Personal Development6 Comments

I am a writer who blogs about being a highly sensitive person. I sit in my writing chair with my Mac and various beverages strewn about me, and write. It is very cathartic. I write about my emotions, feelings, thoughts, struggles, eccentricities, questionable habits, phobias, and anxieties. It feels SO GOOD to get them out. I finish my pieces and edit them for publication. I get ready to release them to the world. Then, as easily as they came, those cathartic feelings soon dwindle down to just traces and splatterings that quickly get absorbed by… Vulnerability What a word. It doesn’t look nice. It doesn’t sound nice. It sure doesn’t feel nice. However unappealing the word is, vulnerability and I have been getting a lot closer lately. It’s not something I set out to do, like a new year’s resolution: Make wise food choices. Unplug as a family and spend more quality time together. Feel vulnerable, exposed, and uncomfortable every day. I can’t help it, this feeling. It’s an icky, lingering emotion sitting right under the surface. All the time. I have been working on my craft lately, studying the art of writing and what skills make up a great writer. There is a lot of really valuable information out there on the subject. Many experts and influencers share their different theories and thoughts about what it takes to create content that resonates with readers. I have researched the topic long enough now to see a common thread running through all their advice. The ability to be vulnerable is what sets you apart. “Vulnerable is the only way we can feel when we truly share the art we’ve made. When we share it, when we connect, we have shifted all the power and made ourselves naked in front of the … Read More