6 Reasons Why We Need Highly Sensitive People

Maria HillCreativity, HSP Traits2 Comments

Why do we need highly sensitive people? HSPs make up approximately 20% of the population. They are people whose nervous systems are highly sensitive to external stimuli. Books like Elaine Aron’s The Highly Sensitive Person and Susan Cain’s book Quiet, are helping us to understand more about the quieter members of our world. Our culture is predominantly as an extrovert culture. Extroverts are outgoing. An extrovert culture promotes the seeking of rewards, prestige and power. Interestingly, as many as 30% of HSPs are extroverts balancing their interest in the world with a higher need for rest and rejuvenation. Highly sensitive people are often introspective which provides them with an insightful perspective that is practical and useful. This is what they bring to us: highly sensitive people see what others do not. Our extroverted world is very fast however, speed often means mistakes. HSPs notice when the energy around them feels wrong. The insights from HSPs from what they notice can protect us from the mistakes of moving too fast. highly sensitive people are often deep thinkers. They may notice important overlooked factors in a particular situation. They can observe what is working and what is not, the connects and disconnects that can lead to eventual problems. They are able to notice pitfalls and potential land mines in our plans and strategies saving us needless headaches. highly sensitive people are holistic thinkers. This means that they offer an antidote to our fragmented society. Fragmentation increases the disconnection between different parts of a group, company, or an entire society. Holistic HSPs see and act as bridges between different parts of social or economic ecology to ease and improve problem solving. HSPs have a capacity to handle complexity because of their eneregtic sensitivity, deep processing and introspection that makes them ideally suited to helping a overloaded … Read More

Trust And The Highly Sensitive Person

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health, Personal Development0 Comments

Because we are all vulnerable, trust is one of the most important issues for human beings and especially for highly sensitive people who have a lot of awareness from all of the energy they take in. What Is Trust? According to the Free Dictionary, trust has many different faces. It is: about individual behavior and character as in the reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence. about expectations: confident expectation of something or confidence in the certainty of future payment for property or goods received about beliefs: one upon which a person relies: God is my trust. about keeping confidences: being entrusted with information, or valuables of some kind about position: the obligation or responsibility imposed on a person in whom confidence or authority is placed: a position of trust. a position in which trust is necessary and assumed: the fiduciary relationship of trustee or the legal structure that protects property of some kind. commercial organizations set up to create monopolies (now illegal). Trust, therefore, serves many functions: it is an act of friendship. When we consider the needs of others we are acting to create social trust through friendship. it means we can be accepted and heard. Trust is a vote for the good in ourselves, others and life. When we see and believe in the good we are more open to ourselves and others. trust helps us develop confidence in ourselves. When we learn we develop skills and as a result are able to believe in ourselves. When we discover that we can learn one skill, we know that we can learn another skill and so our confidence grows. it is social glue that makes it easier for people to work and live together it can promote prosperity when institutions and businesses are trustworthy because it means … Read More

Is Contentment Possible?

Kathryn NulfEmotional And Mental Health, Stress19 Comments

Do ever get asked a question that hits you like a ton of bricks? Years ago a good friend of mine asked me something that I’ll never forget. At the time I was pretty much all over the place. Feeling emotions very intensely, even taking on other people’s stuff. It was a huge energy suck. At the time I had no idea of my HSP trait. I just thought I was a little crazy. So when I was asked this question it caught me off guard. Like somebody had “found me out.” “Are you ever just content?” Of Course I Feel Contentment! My first thought when I heard this was to scream out and defend myself: “Yes! Of course I am!” But I knew it wasn’t true. So I stood there, kind of stunned. You see, I was truly all over the map with my emotions. I was in college, stressed to the core, and had zero ways to deal with it. What was so eye opening about hearing this question was that it brought me face to face with just how stressed I was. I was either really happy, or down in the dumps. There wasn’t much of a healthy middle ground. Even though I was feeling exposed in that moment, I was grateful that someone had the guts to check in with me at that level. Where Is Your Contentment? Now I want to check in with you. Do you ever just feel contentment? Are you able to be with what is in your life, while still dreaming up whatever is next for you? Being stressed can make us feel stuck because we are either reaching for the past or the future. Living on an emotional rollercoaster can keep us playing the “up and down” game – happy … Read More

Why Vulnerability Will Make You Successful

Nicole TaffsEmotional And Mental Health, Personal Development6 Comments

I am a writer who blogs about being a highly sensitive person. I sit in my writing chair with my Mac and various beverages strewn about me, and write. It is very cathartic. I write about my emotions, feelings, thoughts, struggles, eccentricities, questionable habits, phobias, and anxieties. It feels SO GOOD to get them out. I finish my pieces and edit them for publication. I get ready to release them to the world. Then, as easily as they came, those cathartic feelings soon dwindle down to just traces and splatterings that quickly get absorbed by… Vulnerability What a word. It doesn’t look nice. It doesn’t sound nice. It sure doesn’t feel nice. However unappealing the word is, vulnerability and I have been getting a lot closer lately. It’s not something I set out to do, like a new year’s resolution: Make wise food choices. Unplug as a family and spend more quality time together. Feel vulnerable, exposed, and uncomfortable every day. I can’t help it, this feeling. It’s an icky, lingering emotion sitting right under the surface. All the time. I have been working on my craft lately, studying the art of writing and what skills make up a great writer. There is a lot of really valuable information out there on the subject. Many experts and influencers share their different theories and thoughts about what it takes to create content that resonates with readers. I have researched the topic long enough now to see a common thread running through all their advice. The ability to be vulnerable is what sets you apart. “Vulnerable is the only way we can feel when we truly share the art we’ve made. When we share it, when we connect, we have shifted all the power and made ourselves naked in front of the … Read More

Tips For The Urban HSP

SaraEmotional And Mental Health, Personal Development, Stress15 Comments

As an HSP, I sometimes think I must be truly nuts to be living in New York City, a place that seems like the very embodiment of the word “overstimulation.” Crowded, loud, bright and always on, it can be a nightmare for the senses. If you let it. I’ve lived here for nearly 15 years now, and I’ve found ways to make it work. (I have a bit of a dream writing job, and this is one of the only places I can really do it, which is why I don’t leave, in case you’re wondering. Also, nearly everyone I love is here, which adds weight to the case for sticking around.)  Attitude For An Urban HSP I think the lessons I’ve learned as a Big Apple HSP can be helpful for all, particularly those who might be living in other, smaller urban environments. I think you have to start by just seeing city life slightly differently than many. Here, I think there’s often a default attitude of, “Only in New York! Gotta love it!” when, for example, you’re on a crowded train at 9 a.m. and all of a sudden theres’s a mariachi band furiously playing, mere inches away from your face. No. You actually don’t have to love it. (I suspect very few people love it, but I applaud their generally optimistic ability to pretend that they do.) So here are a few of the survival tips I’ve come up with to make being an NYC urban HSP work for me. Protect Your Hearing 1) Get good headphones, and don’t be afraid to use them. I’ve always been shocked that so many people are willing to put up with the crappy white headphones that come with an Apple product. They make my ears sore after only a few … Read More

Thrive: The Highly Sensitive Person and Career

Tracy CooperPersonal Development, Physical Health0 Comments

The new book, Thrive by Dr. Tracy Cooper, with a foreword by Dr. Elaine Aron, author of The Highly Sensitive Person and originator of the Sensory Processing Sensitivity personality trait is available now. Dr. Cooper is introducing his book through a blog tour. His first stop is HSP Health. He has written an article below to tell you in his own words his thinking and why he decided to write this book.  Thrive Through Self Care In chapter four of my new book, Thrive: The Highly Sensitive Person and Career, I cover a number of important aspects of self-care.  What I’d like to do in this stop on the blog tour is offer a framework within which we can consider self-care in the working environment.  The workplace has certainly changed over the past decade, along with the overall society, with more emphasis in many cases on offering a better balance between work and home time, along with greater autonomy in how and when we carry out our work.  This isn’t true in all cases, but in order to attract the top talent, even the top third perhaps, companies and organizations have had to reexamine the needs of younger workers and restructure the way they do business to recruit and retain the best individuals.  This shift in the structure of work is a potential boon for us all as we seek working conditions that are more suited to our individual needs. What do I mean when I say self-care?   Isn’t self-care just a tired, old phrase that’s largely lost any meaning in the rough and tumble world of work where one’s needs are many times subordinate to the needs of the job?  Self-care for highly sensitive people, or HSPs, implies a broader set of considerations of necessity because HSPs are more … Read More