Emotional Healing And The Body

Mary Kay ParkinsonEmotional And Mental Health4 Comments

Highly sensitive people come into the world very attuned to the sensory world. We perceive so much from inside ourselves and from observing and sensing others. When we encounter intense pain or even trauma, that same gift of sensing can overwhelm us with too much sensation and information. Our system can shut down to protect us from this “too muchness”. Counter intuitively, returning to sensing in our bodies can also be the path back to wholeness and health. The Necessity Of Pain Processing “Most importantly, I learned that as much as I wanted to, I can’t simply “turn off” the hurt, and move on to the next chapter without fully processing and experiencing the associated pain. Truly feeling my emotions and acknowledging physical responses to stress and pain has been hugely beneficial to me.”- L. H. on healing from a painful divorce. Working with the body can help facilitate emotional healing. Trauma and pain are stored in the body – we remove our conscious awareness from certain parts of our body in order to stop feeling the pain or trauma. Often we first experienced this pain or trauma when alone. It overwhelmed our singular energy system and so we shut it off. Healing can come when we put our conscious awareness back into that part of our body where it was shut down. Then we can allow the process to unfold at a pace that we can manage (and not be overwhelmed) until a natural resolve is reached and we authentically move on. How Being Highly Sensitive Helps Healing Being highly sensitive can assist with this process as returning to simple body sensations is the most effective way to re-open the shut off area. Going directly into emotion can quickly return the original overwhelm, whereas re-entering through awareness of body … Read More

Are You Numbing Your Sensitivity?

Kathryn NulfHealth, The HSP Trait26 Comments

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Are your numbing your sensitivity? I do sometimes. As I stood in line waiting to order my cup of coffee, I reached for my phone in my purse. You know, just in case there were any new updates within the last 5 minutes since the last time I checked it. I didn’t feel the need to check. I just did it. You might be thinking that yes, you do this, too. It’s like we are on autopilot sometimes. Or are we? Avoiding Our Sensitivity What if we aren’t? What if we know exactly what we are doing? What if we are checking our phones—or eating when we’re not hungry, or watching another episode on Netflix, or {insert supposedly mindless activity here}—because feeling our sensitivity just feels like it’s too much? Do you do this? Do you participate in little actions throughout your day to avoid your sensitive self-feeling too much, feeling life around you? You are numbing your sensitivity. Why You Are Numbing Your Sensitivity I get it. We HSPs know what it’s like to truly feel our way through life. It can get overwhelming. Eye contact with a stranger. Sitting too close to someone on the train. Returning a phone call we don’t want to make. Showing up to a stressful job. Meeting new people at a party. Heck, even being with our own families at a holiday gathering. It can be a lot to handle. Because we feel life’s moments more intensely, the volume can feel like it’s turned up too high a lot of the time. Mere eye contact with a stranger can feel like it’s just too much to handle when you’ve already got an ongoing to-do list in your mind, plus you’re still dwelling on the conversation you had earlier with a friend that just … Read More

An Invitation To Intuition

Ritu KaushalCreativity, Emotional And Mental Health, Personal Development1 Comment

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One day, some years back, someone very close to me said in words close to these: You are not very intuitive. I wasn’t ? That came as a complete surprise to me. Is that what she thought? That was completely opposite to how I thought of myself. I thought I was, in fact, very intuitive. And yet, she was right in her way. I had problems making decisions. I had worked at a corporate career that felt wrong for over seven years. I felt chained, confined, miserable. And my personal life lacked any stability or direction. With a huge amount of effort and inner work, I did get to a place where things started falling into place. I shifted many of my beliefs and worked through many self-harming patterns. And yet, when I looked back, especially to the dark times, times where I felt adrift, I wondered: What had gone wrong? What had happened to my intuition? Shouldn’t it have saved me? Do You Listen To Your Intuition? And yet, I do know the answer. The voice was always there. It was I who didn’t listen. Why do we override this voice? How can we listen to it better? What beliefs hold us back from turning inward to know what we need to do next? These are all questions that feel very important to me now. Answering them can help me tune in to what feels right instead of getting hooked into what merely looks right. There are some things that I have learnt and am learning about the nature of intuition that might help you too. They might clear the way to a deeper understanding of where you need to go and how to get there: Many Forms Of Intuition Our internal lives are such an unknown to many … Read More

Stuck In The Spider Web Of Approval?

Maria HillCulture And Sensitive People, Emotional And Mental Health, Social Smarts1 Comment

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I like getting approval. I suspect we all do. Yet I hate wanting or needing it. I hate all the games that go with approval: the withholding of it – treating it like it is a prize or a weapon. the distortion of information to manipulate approval the overvaluation of approval when we are really all in this together. We are social creatures, so social issues are important to us. Since none of us survive alone, our social life has great weight and can cause us pain or provide us with immense joy. Often we personalize social issues and judge each other while disregarding the toxic social climate that can create many behavioral challenges. So many issues that are labeled emotional and are assumed to be simple but are really anything but. Approval is one of them and it is one of our biggest challenges. What Is Approval? Approval is a kind of social stake in the ground. A position, if you will, with group force behind it. That is why we take it so seriously and should. It is the manifestation of group structures, an expected allegiance. The viability of any and all social arrangements require allegiances. Validation is a way of enforcing allegiances. So it often feels as if we are damned if we do and damned if we don’t and there is some truth to that. We cannot simply ignore the group structures that we need to negotiate. We also cannot let destructive groups totally control us either. One way to think of approval is to consider it an initiation into human social culture. Of course, it occurs in our childhoods, and if unexamined rules our entire life. Approval is a handed down formula for how to be, how to behave and who to be courtesy of those around … Read More

6 Reasons Why We Need Highly Sensitive People

Maria HillThe HSP Trait2 Comments

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Why do we need highly sensitive people? HSPs make up approximately 20% of the population. They are people whose nervous systems are highly sensitive to external stimuli. Books like Elaine Aron’s The Highly Sensitive Person and Susan Cain’s book Quiet, are helping us to understand more about the quieter members of our world. Our culture is predominantly as an extrovert culture. Extroverts are outgoing. An extrovert culture promotes the seeking of rewards, prestige and power. Interestingly, as many as 30% of HSPs are extroverts balancing their interest in the world with a higher need for rest and rejuvenation. Highly sensitive people are often introspective which provides them with an insightful perspective that is practical and useful. This is what they bring to us: highly sensitive people see what others do not. Our extroverted world is very fast however, speed often means mistakes. HSPs notice when the energy around them feels wrong. The insights from HSPs from what they notice can protect us from the mistakes of moving too fast. highly sensitive people are often deep thinkers. They may notice important overlooked factors in a particular situation. They can observe what is working and what is not, the connects and disconnects that can lead to eventual problems. They are able to notice pitfalls and potential land mines in our plans and strategies saving us needless headaches. highly sensitive people are holistic thinkers. This means that they offer an antidote to our fragmented society. Fragmentation increases the disconnection between different parts of a group, company, or an entire society. Holistic HSPs see and act as bridges between different parts of social or economic ecology to ease and improve problem solving. HSPs have a capacity to handle complexity because of their eneregtic sensitivity, deep processing and introspection that makes them ideally suited to helping a overloaded … Read More

I Love My Cat’s Life

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health, Personal Development, Stress0 Comments

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I adore my cat and how she lives. I have often wondered why the way we live is so different. So many people think animals are not as smart as we are but I remain unconvinced. I see the soul in her eyes, the living being that is no different. My cat takes life in stride. Why is that so hard for us? Taking Life In Stride: A Piece Of Cake For A Cat Many sages talk about the importance of just being. Being is the state when you are in the moment without a need to make something out of it, prove anything, or be anybody. Being is a state of oneness with the universal life force. It’s a state of is-ness. My cat is good at being. With being comes a total lack of self doubt, that I as an HSP love. She doesn’t have to be somebody and she knows that this world is hers as much as mine. There is no question in her mind about her right to be here. My Cat Has Status In all honesty, my cat has status. She has a ridiculous number of pet beds around the house that she cycles through to select her favorite spot of the moment. She climbs under the covers at night and has the first choice of where to sleep. She has my lap to climb onto when she wants some reiki energy. Kelly tells time: when I should get up and when I should go to bed. Keeping On Kelly has only one working eye and a poorly healed broken pelvis, so we go for walks with her in her harness and coat. She doesn’t love it, but we make it work. We got her as a companion for our cat Socrates who has since passed away. She came with her health issues since she had … Read More