An Invitation To Intuition

Ritu KaushalCreativity, Emotional And Mental Health, Personal Development1 Comment

One day, some years back, someone very close to me said in words close to these: You are not very intuitive. I wasn’t ? That came as a complete surprise to me. Is that what she thought? That was completely opposite to how I thought of myself. I thought I was, in fact, very intuitive. And yet, she was right in her way. I had problems making decisions. I had worked at a corporate career that felt wrong for over seven years. I felt chained, confined, miserable. And my personal life lacked any stability or direction. With a huge amount of effort and inner work, I did get to a place where things started falling into place. I shifted many of my beliefs and worked through many self-harming patterns. And yet, when I looked back, especially to the dark times, times where I felt adrift, I wondered: What had gone wrong? What had happened to my intuition? Shouldn’t it have saved me? Do You Listen To Your Intuition? And yet, I do know the answer. The voice was always there. It was I who didn’t listen. Why do we override this voice? How can we listen to it better? What beliefs hold us back from turning inward to know what we need to do next? These are all questions that feel very important to me now. Answering them can help me tune in to what feels right instead of getting hooked into what merely looks right. There are some things that I have learnt and am learning about the nature of intuition that might help you too. They might clear the way to a deeper understanding of where you need to go and how to get there: Many Forms Of Intuition Our internal lives are such an unknown to many … Read More

Stuck In The Spider Web Of Approval?

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health1 Comment

I like getting approval. I suspect we all do. Yet I hate wanting or needing it. I hate all the games that go with approval: the withholding of it – treating it like it is a prize or a weapon. the distortion of information to manipulate approval the overvaluation of approval when we are really all in this together. We are social creatures, so social issues are important to us. Since none of us survive alone, our social life has great weight and can cause us pain or provide us  with immense joy. Often we personalize social issues and judge each other, while disregarding the toxic social climate that can create many behavioral challenges. So many issues that are labelled emotional and are assumed to be simple but are really anything but. Approval is one of them and it is one of our biggest challenges. What Is Approval? Approval is a kind of social stake in the ground. A position, if you will, with group force behind it. That is why we take it so seriously and should. Approval is the manifestation of group structures, an expected allegiance. The viability of any and all social arrangements require allegiances. Approval is a way of enforcing allegiances. So it often feels as if we are damned if we do and damned if we don’t and there is some truth to that. We cannot simply ignore the group structures that we need to negotiate. We also cannot let destructive groups totally control us either. One way to think of approval is  to consider it an initiation into human social culture. Of course, it occurs in our childhoods, and if unexamined rules our entire life. Approval is a handed down formula for how to be, how to behave and who to be courtesy of … Read More

6 Reasons Why We Need Highly Sensitive People

Maria HillCreativity, HSP Traits2 Comments

Why do we need highly sensitive people? HSPs make up approximately 20% of the population. They are people whose nervous systems are highly sensitive to external stimuli. Books like Elaine Aron’s The Highly Sensitive Person and Susan Cain’s book Quiet, are helping us to understand more about the quieter members of our world. Our culture is predominantly as an extrovert culture. Extroverts are outgoing. An extrovert culture promotes the seeking of rewards, prestige and power. Interestingly, as many as 30% of HSPs are extroverts balancing their interest in the world with a higher need for rest and rejuvenation. Highly sensitive people are often introspective which provides them with an insightful perspective that is practical and useful. This is what they bring to us: highly sensitive people see what others do not. Our extroverted world is very fast however, speed often means mistakes. HSPs notice when the energy around them feels wrong. The insights from HSPs from what they notice can protect us from the mistakes of moving too fast. highly sensitive people are often deep thinkers. They may notice important overlooked factors in a particular situation. They can observe what is working and what is not, the connects and disconnects that can lead to eventual problems. They are able to notice pitfalls and potential land mines in our plans and strategies saving us needless headaches. highly sensitive people are holistic thinkers. This means that they offer an antidote to our fragmented society. Fragmentation increases the disconnection between different parts of a group, company, or an entire society. Holistic HSPs see and act as bridges between different parts of social or economic ecology to ease and improve problem solving. HSPs have a capacity to handle complexity because of their eneregtic sensitivity, deep processing and introspection that makes them ideally suited to helping a overloaded … Read More

I Love My Cat’s Life

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health, Personal Development, Stress0 Comments

I adore my cat and how she lives. I have often wondered why the way we live is so different. So many people think animals are not as smart as we are but I remain unconvinced. I see the soul in her eyes, the living being that is no different. My cat takes life in stride. Why is that so hard for us? Taking Life In Stride: A Piece Of Cake For A Cat Many sages talk about the importance of just being. Being is the state when you are in the moment without a need to make something out of it, prove anything, or be anybody. Being is a state of oneness with the universal life force. It’s a state of is-ness. My cat is good at being. With being comes a total lack of self doubt, that I as an HSP love. She doesn’t have to be somebody and she knows that this world is hers as much as mine. There is no question in her mind about her right to be here. My Cat Has Status In all honesty, my cat has status. She has a ridiculous number of pet beds around the house that she cycles through to select her favorite spot of the moment. She climbs under the covers at night and has the first choice of where to sleep. She has my lap to climb onto when she wants some reiki energy. Kelly tells time: when I should get up and when I should go to bed. Keeping On Kelly has only one working eye and a poorly healed broken pelvis, so we go for walks with her in her harness and coat. She doesn’t love it, but we make it work. We got her as a companion for our cat Socrates who has since passed away. She came with her health issues since she had … Read More

Create A Successful And Peaceful Work Environment

Ted ZeffPersonal Development, Stress1 Comment

Many specific methods can help create a more peaceful work environment helping the HSP become more successful at their job. Consider which of the suggestions in this section are germane to your workplace and try to incorporate some of the following ideas into your work situation. Make Your Physical Work Environment Beautiful You can listen to calming background music to reduce or eliminate ambient noise at work. Many HSPs have told me that they frequently listen to music, wearing a headset, while some wear earplugs on the job. Put up inspiring pictures of natural settings such as land or seascapes or family pictures. If you are working under fluorescent lights or in an artificial urban setting, gazing at nature will soothe your nerves. It may also help if you bring flowers and plants to your office. Your nervous system will be calmed by inhaling the delicate fragrance of flowers or by gazing at an exquisite bouquet. Surround yourself with the love of pictures of family and friends. Make sure that you have a comfortable chair to sit in throughout the workday so that your muscles are relaxed. You can buy a massage cushion for your chair that will electronically massage your tension away throughout the day. Try to transform the sound of the telephone ringing at work into a relaxation cue. First lower the volume if possible. Let the ringing remind you to relax your muscles, take some slow deep breaths and repeat a mantra such as peace. If possible, don’t answer the phone until the third or fourth ring. Use those few moments to relax deeply. Reduce Stimulation In Your Work Environment It’s a good idea to create a daily work schedule to reduce stimulation, rather than just immediately jumping into a busy workday every morning. When you first … Read More

Embrace Respect: It’s Good For Your Health

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health, Personal Development, Stress0 Comments

Respect is something we all want. Even HSPs. Why is it so elusive? Why Respect Is Important Respect is so important for our well being that we feel our positive energy grow when around it and we feel our energy become depleted when we are disrespected. For highly sensitive people, the issue of respect is particularly acute since we are frequently disrespected for our “soft” values and gentle, non-aggressive personalities. Whether we are accepted or not, we still need to experience respect – not just be someone that others put up with. We all want to be well regarded by the people in our life and also to be able to look in the mirror and be happy with ourselves. Because the HSP nervous systems is so easily stressed, we also need to be aware that disrespect damages our health and as a result our ability to function well. It creates emotional injury and more stress for us to deal with. On a long term basis disrespect will make us ill. Implications Of Respect Respect has important benefits: it helps us open to the world it makes us open to listening to others it helps create trust it helps us have confidence in ourselves it creates space for mutual problem solving it creates a feeling of safety it lets you receive it lets you give it helps you to relax it helps to feel one with the universe it helps you heal it helps you forgive it is necessary for love it helps you feel happy it helps you be present rather than want to escape the present it helps you to be with whatever you are involved with so persistence becomes easier it helps you feel less needy so you are more satisfied Respect is so important that people spend their entire lives … Read More