The Paths We Travel Working With Our Sensitivity

Edward BonapartianEmotional And Mental Health, Uncategorized11 Comments

“All of life is a circle” my meditation teacher tells me during a discussion on  the lessons life often presents; “Regardless of the starting point, at one time or another life’s circumstances will always steer you back to similar circumstances; if for no other reason than to allow awareness of the progress of one’s own journey.” In my memory of that conversation, the point he made lingers.While time has shown me that it is all too easy for the Highly Sensitive to fall prey to any negative emotions generated during these experiences, over time I have realized that it is actually our sensitivity which plays a key role in also allowing us to recognize the lessons in growth contained within the experience. Similar to a double edged sword, our sensitivity can hinder or benefit us; it all depends on how we work with our sensitivity. Working With Our Sensitivity Working with our sensitivity may seem like a strange concept. Similar to how we work with our sleep dreams, we can be passive or proactive with the experience. The key here is in recognizing that being a Highly Sensitive Person is not an identity as our ego’s would have us believe. Instead, it is simply an aspect of our energetic makeup which in itself has different aspects; one of which is intuition. Sensitivity and intuition often go hand in hand. A favorite teacher of mine put it succinctly when she  commented” It’s all about energy” when I had asked her where intuition comes from. As I exited the building where our meditation class was held, I saw the lone figure of a friend, Kira, sitting on a bench by the Koi pond.  A tall, thin blond in her sixties, Kira held herself with a quiet dignity that I often admired. As I walked … Read More

Protect Your Life Force: Awareness For HSPs

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health, Energy Healing0 Comments

Our life force is our energy. As a highly sensitive person, I am very energy sensitive as I am sure you are. Being energy sensitive means noticing the claims and demands on our energy from others. Protecting our life force and being good stewards of our life gift is our job. However being an HSP makes this a particularly challenging job. There are many ways to deal with interpersonal claims for our time and energy. One way is to be aware of ways in which someone can try to lay claim to our life force. Ways Of Laying Claim To The Life Force Of Another There are many ways to lay claim to the energies of another person. Some you will have experienced and others you may use yourself. This list is not exhaustive but it will help you notice when it is happening: expectations. This is one we all do at some point or another, perhaps even all the time. We form expectations and they then run our relationships. fear. One of the easiest ways to lay claim to another’s life force is by creating fear, or putting your fear on them. guilt. One of the big energy thieves of modern life, with guilt we put the burden of our life on someone else. promises. When we make promises and do not keep them, we are stealing someone else’s life force, by pretending a level of relationship that we are not willing to maintain. demands. When we make demands, we are being entitled to the time, energy and labor of another. values. Values are a very useful tool in managing our lives and commitments. However, when we impose our values on others we are demanding that they live on our terms. Even if we have great values, it is important to honor the dignity … Read More

Subtle Energies – The Path To Health

Maria HillAyurveda, Energy Healing, Physical Health2 Comments

Subtle energies are what you notice when you are in stillness. Subtle energies are precious information. Subtle energies have truth in them, but they don’t scream and yell their message. They are there to be discerned. Subtle energies are where highly sensitive people live. A Lost Skill Subtle energies require good listening skills. Somewhere in the progress of the human race, we seem to have stopped listening. Our early ancestors may not have had our material sophistication but they knew how to listen to the energies around them. A tracker for a tribe, any hunter, and shaman or medicine man knew about subtle energy and what the various energies meant. Their knowledge was a matter of life and death. Subtle energies are fluid and moving. They are not tied to anything. They just are. Subtle energies are present everywhere and in everything. They include everything. They include time, space, materiality, qualities – hard, soft etc., attitude, and direction. Subtle energies are our path to the flow state. They are also our window to the connection of mind and body that many of us have lost. Subtle Energies At Work One of the best examples of a great use of subtle energies is Ayurveda, the ancient holistic healing system. Ayurveda categorizes everything by subtle energies.  Each of the three human body types of doshas is a group of subtle energies.  All three exist in each of us in different combinations. When Ayurveda suggests food for a dosha, it is recommending the best subtle energy choices that will support health in a particular individual. Each of the seasons and stages of life represent different subtle energies as well. This is the reason that Ayurveda has become a great resource for people seeking a way to manage their health themselves. Understanding subtle energies … Read More

4 Steps To Emotional Health

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health1 Comment

If you struggle with processing your feelings you are not alone. As an HSP, it is often difficult to handle so many strong, overwhelming emotions. When too many  emotions remain unprocessed they can lead to emotional blocks. However, we sensitives are blessed with the gift of introspection.  It may seem like a curse at times but it is actually an advantage. Why? Because for highly sensitive people the mundane task of processing our emotions is what leads us to wisdom. Step 1: Learn Where Energy Blocks Come From According to Yogi Amrit Desai, founder of Kripalu Yoga in a June, 2010 article in Natural Awakenings, Healing the Root Cause of Addiction with Ayurveda A Natural Cure for Unhealthy Dependence by Linda Sechrist,  “…stressors—thoughts and reactions to our lifestyle, relationships, work environment and family life—are introduced through the ego mind. Emotionally charged thoughts and feelings of blame, shame or guilt then get metabolized into our biological body system. Stored in the form of toxins and neuro-glandular imbalances, these feelings create energy blocks that prevent the free flow of energy, or prana, the body’s self-healing wisdom. Energy blocks may take the form of muscular tensions and weakness in liver, kidney and digestive functions. Gradual decline results in a progressive deterioration of biological processes and consequently can manifest in external symptoms of fatigue, fear, anxiety and insecurity.” Step 2: Embrace Emotional Metabolism Metabolism comes from the greek word ” metabole” for change or transformation. At any given time as we interact with our world we are in the process of metabolism – of perceptions, thoughts, feelings, emotions as well as material substances such as food and water. All forms of life engage in metabolism, from plants to humans. When we are unable to metabolize a food it will clog our bodies. When we are unable to metabolize or process emotions, they will … Read More

All Anger Is Not Equal

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health, Personal Development, Stress0 Comments

Anger is an interesting subject in my opinion. I grew up with narcissistic parents. They were angry a lot. I always found it puzzling because they would become hostile about the silliest things and their anger was always more important than everyone else’s, of course. And so this HSP was off and running trying to understand it all. Much has been written about anger so I was reluctant to wade into the subject. So often it is discussed as one issue but I think it is more complex. Anger Can Be Hard To Handle There is more than one kind of anger, in my opinion. Injustice and cruelty are sources of angry feelings. These are the sources of anger, most difficult for HSPs to handle. They are also legitimate sources of anger and are often invalidated, so not only can they be hard to feel but the invalidation adds an additional source of anger and pain. Cultural Anger Triggers Since we have access to so much information today, we have more reasons to feel upset. Our rich media system plies us with so many instances of unfairness and misery that it is hard not to have our anger triggered. Competition and behavioral permissiveness around displays of anger (let it out) all contribute to a climate of hostility. As a result we are likely to feel the energy of hostility is many places and areas of our lives. Highly sensitive people will pick it up more than others and suffer from it more. Structure And Anger Then there is hostility that is not based on our experience. I call it anger from our heads because it is not a living anger. It is based on oughts and shoulds. It is based on expectations and entitlements. It is based on concepts about life, not life itself. It is based on the demands created by the … Read More

I Love My Cat’s Life

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health, Personal Development, Stress0 Comments

I adore my cat and how she lives. I have often wondered why the way we live is so different. So many people think animals are not as smart as we are but I remain unconvinced. I see the soul in her eyes, the living being that is no different. My cat takes life in stride. Why is that so hard for us? Taking Life In Stride: A Piece Of Cake For A Cat Many sages talk about the importance of just being. Being is the state when you are in the moment without a need to make something out of it, prove anything, or be anybody. Being is a state of oneness with the universal life force. It’s a state of is-ness. My cat is good at being. With being comes a total lack of self doubt, that I as an HSP love. She doesn’t have to be somebody and she knows that this world is hers as much as mine. There is no question in her mind about her right to be here. My Cat Has Status In all honesty, my cat has status. She has a ridiculous number of pet beds around the house that she cycles through to select her favorite spot of the moment. She climbs under the covers at night and has the first choice of where to sleep. She has my lap to climb onto when she wants some reiki energy. Kelly tells time: when I should get up and when I should go to bed. Keeping On Kelly has only one working eye and a poorly healed broken pelvis, so we go for walks with her in her harness and coat. She doesn’t love it, but we make it work. We got her as a companion for our cat Socrates who has since passed away. She came with her health issues since she had … Read More