Emotional Healing And The Body

Mary Kay ParkinsonEmotional And Mental Health4 Comments

Highly sensitive people come into the world very attuned to the sensory world. We perceive so much from inside ourselves and from observing and sensing others. When we encounter intense pain or even trauma, that same gift of sensing can overwhelm us with too much sensation and information. Our system can shut down to protect us from this “too muchness”. Counter intuitively, returning to sensing in our bodies can also be the path back to wholeness and health. The Necessity Of Pain Processing “Most importantly, I learned that as much as I wanted to, I can’t simply “turn off” the hurt, and move on to the next chapter without fully processing and experiencing the associated pain. Truly feeling my emotions and acknowledging physical responses to stress and pain has been hugely beneficial to me.”- L. H. on healing from a painful divorce. Working with the body can help facilitate emotional healing. Trauma and pain are stored in the body – we remove our conscious awareness from certain parts of our body in order to stop feeling the pain or trauma. Often we first experienced this pain or trauma when alone. It overwhelmed our singular energy system and so we shut it off. Healing can come when we put our conscious awareness back into that part of our body where it was shut down. Then we can allow the process to unfold at a pace that we can manage (and not be overwhelmed) until a natural resolve is reached and we authentically move on. How Being Highly Sensitive Helps Healing Being highly sensitive can assist with this process as returning to simple body sensations is the most effective way to re-open the shut off area. Going directly into emotion can quickly return the original overwhelm, whereas re-entering through awareness of body … Read More

Feeling Free Is Its Own Reward

Maria HillCulture And Sensitive People, Emotional And Mental Health, Personal Development0 Comments


Who doesn’t want to feel free? After all, freedom is such a wonderful sounding word. I think there is a lot of confusion about freedom so I thought it was worth some discussion. What Is Freedom? Merriam Webster has a fairly complete answer to what freedom is: 1 :  the quality or state of being free: as a :  the absence of necessity, coercion, or constraint in choice or action b :  liberation from slavery or restraint or from the power of another : independence c :  the quality or state of being exempt or released usually from something onerous <freedom from care> d :  ease, facility <spoke the language with freedom> e :  the quality of being frank, open, or outspoken <answered with freedom> f :  improper familiarity g :  boldness of conception or execution h :  unrestricted use <gave him the freedom of their home> 2 a :  a political right b :  franchise, privilege Freedom, then, can be categorized as a function of agency, status and receptivity as in being open to new ideas.  What Gets In The Way Of Freedom? Why is feeling free so illusive? Even in the “free world” many people do not feel free. There can be many reasons for this since we are all somewhat different from each other and have differences in experience and capacity. Whether you are highly sensitive or not, you may have experienced the feeling free or the lack of it. As the definition shows, freedom is both an external state and an internal one as well. We have all heard of people who have external freedom who are unhappy and lack an inner feeling of being free. And the opposite as well, individuals without the status of freedom who find inner sources of freedom. But this is not a … Read More

Why Insecurity Is The First Step To Confidence

Nicole TaffsPersonal Development1 Comment

What is it about insecurity that makes us so uncomfortable? Why do most of us pretend we don’t have insecurities, or even worse, suppress them? While it is common to deny insecurity, we must be aware of the drastic consequences of doing so. The very act of pushing something down automatically creates resistance. It takes a great amount of energy to push down our insecurities. Not just physical energy, but mental and emotional energy as well. Any person or situation has the potential to trigger these emotions and it is inevitable that they will rise to the surface. At this point, we must decide if we want to keep building upon these insecurities, or if we want to face them once and for all. Insecurity Is Hidden Opportunity Our insecurities are really just hidden opportunities. We must look at them as clues. Clues that pinpoint suppressed parts of ourselves that need attention. The next time we find an insecurity has been triggered, we must remember that an opportunity has presented itself. This is our chance to focus on those parts of ourselves that have been neglected for years. When we do this, we are choosing to evolve. We are declaring to the world, and to ourselves, we are no longer satisfied with status quo. This is a chance to grow into the best possible version of our self.  Why We Suppress Emotions There are two reasons we suppress uncomfortable emotions. We will discover the second reason later on but the first reason is this-it doesn’t feel good. That’s it! It’s really that simple. What makes us so hesitant to confront insecurity then? Can’t we tolerate a small dose of feeling bad? Well, there’s something interesting that happens when we consistently avoid something. We convince ourselves that what we are avoiding … Read More

Are These Energy Vampires Messing With You?

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health, Social Smarts2 Comments

Have you felt your energy go down when someone enters the room? Are there certain people that you avoid – perhaps even family members – because you feel bad when you are around them? Meet The Energy Vampires! When we think of vampires, Halloween often comes to mind. However, these vampires never go off duty, never take a vacation or a holiday. And you need to watch out for them. The Complainers.  The energy draining feeling from complainers can sneak up on you. It is easy to be taken in by them.  Sometimes they will complain about something that you dislike as much as they do so you won’t realize that you are being drained.  Life for a complainer is one long pity party. Being supportive of an individual going through a hard time is an act of friendship. Unfortunately with the complainer the hard times never stop. After a while you may wonder if some of their hard times are self-created. One way to know if you are dealing with an energy vampire rather than a person having a bad day is to suggest solutions. Complaining vampires don’t want their problems solved. If they were they would no longer have such an easy way to be the center of attention. The Non-Stop Talker. Non-stop talkers have a desperate quality to them. They often seem afraid of what would happen if they stopped talking or let someone else have the floor. The non-stop talker probably had to resort to extreme measures to get attention when he or she was a child – or may have been the designated family entertainer. Unfortunately. a winning childhood strategy is often a poor choice for adults, and can end up feeling used and depleted listening to a non-stop talker who has no interest in … Read More

Trust And The Highly Sensitive Person

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health, Personal Development, The HSP Trait0 Comments

Because we are all vulnerable, trust is one of the most important issues for human beings and especially for highly sensitive people who have a lot of awareness from all of the energy they take in. What Is Trust? According to the Free Dictionary, trust has many different faces. It is: about individual behavior and character as in the reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence. about expectations: confident expectation of something or confidence in the certainty of future payment for property or goods received about beliefs: one upon which a person relies: God is my trust. about keeping confidences: being entrusted with information, or valuables of some kind about position: the obligation or responsibility imposed on a person in whom confidence or authority is placed: a position of trust. a position in which trust is necessary and assumed: the fiduciary relationship of trustee or the legal structure that protects property of some kind. commercial organizations set up to create monopolies (now illegal). Trust, therefore, serves many functions: it is an act of friendship. When we consider the needs of others we are acting to create social trust through friendship. it means we can be accepted and heard. Trust is a vote for the good in ourselves, others and life. When we see and believe in the good we are more open to ourselves and others. trust helps us develop confidence in ourselves. When we learn we develop skills and as a result are able to believe in ourselves. When we discover that we can learn one skill, we know that we can learn another skill and so our confidence grows. it is social glue that makes it easier for people to work and live together it can promote prosperity when institutions and businesses are trustworthy because it means … Read More

What Our Emotions Are Trying To Tell Us

Ritu KaushalEmotional And Mental Health, Personal Development, Stress2 Comments

As a sensitive person, I am often caught up in the rip-tide of my feelings. They sweep me up. They leave me gasping for air. They throw me on the shore, battered and bruised. Because they can be overwhelming, I have been wanting to get to the heart of my emotional life. Why do I relate to my feelings the way I do? How can I express them in a healthy way? How can I emotionally self-regulate? Maybe, you, like me, are in this place as well. After all, it’s natural that in a world like ours, where we are never taught about emotions, we often end up with only about half the tools we need. As I have worked to better relate to my emotions, I have learnt some things that might help you as well. They might give you some missing pieces for your own puzzle. Here are some clues to help decipher what your emotions are trying, so desperately, to convey to you. The Clues In Emotions Every emotion has a function, even the so-called negative ones.   Many of us have been exposed to a harmful unleashing of powerful emotions. Think back to how anger was modeled for you. It’s very likely that it only showed up in its destructive form. Because we bore witness to this destruction, we might have started avoiding anger altogether. But all emotions, even the so-called negative ones, come bearing important messages. Karla McLaren talks about this eloquently in her wonderful book The Language of Emotions. She tells us how deep-seated beliefs about “negative emotions” make us lose touch with the very power that could liberate us. Since many of us avoid anger at all costs, we forget about the critical role that anger can play. Without it, we wouldn’t know … Read More