Are You Suffering From Cultural Depression?

Maria HillCulture And Sensitive People, Emotional And Mental Health, Personal Development19 Comments

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I see a lot of depression around me. Perhaps you do, too. But it is a strange kind of depression the kind of depression that comes when everything around us seems wrong. Depression And Culture What I am seeing is a fairly complex depression that comes from a number of sources – like an octopus messing with our inner well-being. I am calling it cultural depression. Culture and psychological well being are closely related. If a culture does not support the well-being of its members, then numerous emotional and psychological conditions can be expected. According to Time Magazine, one in five Americans are taking medication for mental health issues. That number does not take into account the numbers of people medicating themselves in other ways. Depression And How We Value Ourselves We humans have an important need: the need to like and be happy with ourselves. Our ability to do that is aided or harmed by our culture through rewards and punishments, approval and disapproval, being included or excluded. How that is handled is very important and can make or break a society. We humans also have a need to be a part of and contribute to the culture that sustains us, and we also want to be proud of it. We need to be able to look at ourselves in the mirror at night and know that we did our best, made our contribution and had something to do with the  good in our world. What happens when that contribution is marginalized? limited? controlled? and diminished? What happens when we are treated as commodities? treated as burdens? made demands of without having our own needs met? What happens when our ability to solve our on problems is taken away? our skills are undeveloped? our talents unwanted? What happens when … Read More

How Reiki Helps Depression

Maria HillDiseases, Emotional And Mental Health, Energy Healing2 Comments

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Can depression be treated? Can depression sufferers find relief without medication? Understanding Depression I think depression is very misunderstood. So often it is treated as a defect or a personality problem. Studies have shown that long term depression comes from the way our brains develop in childhood. The implication is that adverse childhood conditions of abuse or serious neglect, living with problems that we cannot control and cannot solve create changes in how our brains function and  can cause depression. Covering Up Depression Doesn’t Work So often we think that when we are not feeling well, that the solution is a trip to the doctor or emergency room. We naturally seek a way to get rid of the pain. Sometimes we medicate ourselves with food, drink, entertainment and other diversions. It doesn’t work. The distractions don’t last for long and then the problem returns and we end up feeling even worse; however they have the negative effect of causing us to feel like failures because we do not seem to be able to control our lives and ourselves. Different Types Of Depression The vicious cycle occurs because we often do not understand the problem we are trying to solve. Depression can come from a number of sources and we need to educate ourselves before we can create the changes we need. There are different kinds of depressions but they generally fall into two categories: situational depressions like job loss or losing a friend that are temporary although painful chronic forms of depression which is caused by life conditions. Chronic depression arises when we have unresolved negative feelings, often as a result of our childhoods, that make us feel sad, bad and hopeless. Unfortunately, chronic depression can change the way our brain works and make it more difficult for us to get … Read More

Unfreeze Those Feelings

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health, Personal Development0 Comments

To a child all feelings may seem huge, since they feel so small – and are. Children are very natural about their feelings. They experience them and let them go. Unfortunately, it does not take long before we learn that our feelings are unwanted and inconvenient. Then we start to reject them and hold them in with all the negative effects that brings. What Happens To Our Feelings? Our feelings become objectified. We learn to treat them like objects at a store, some unwanted and others preferred as demonstrated to us by our families and educators. And so the stress starts. According to Yogi Amrit Desai, founder of Kripalu Yoga in a June, 2010 article in Natural Awakenings, Healing the Root Cause of Addiction with Ayurveda A Natural Cure for Unhealthy Dependence by Linda Sechrist,   “It is important to recognize that most people don’t know the difference between tension and stress… He observes that stressors—thoughts and reactions to our lifestyle, relationships, work environment and family life—are introduced through the ego mind. Emotionally charged thoughts and feelings of blame, shame or guilt then get metabolized into our biological body system. Stored in the form of toxins and neuro-glandular imbalances, these feelings create energy blocks that prevent the free flow of energy, or prana, the body’s self-healing wisdom. Energy blocks may take the form of muscular tensions and weakness in liver, kidney and digestive functions. Gradual decline results in a progressive deterioration of biological processes and consequently can manifest in external symptoms of fatigue, fear, anxiety and insecurity.” Essentially we are socialized to have certain emotions and reject others and our unwanted emotions then get stuck in our bodies and gradually make us sick. Why Rejecting Feelings Is A Mistake When we reject our feelings, we cannot own them and process them. When we are processing our feelings, we take them in, … Read More

The Message Of Depression

Maria HillDiseases, Emotional And Mental Health6 Comments

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Do you think that there is something wrong with you when you are depressed? Suppose you are depressed because there is something right with you. Possible? Depression And The Aching Heart What is the message of depression? Often when we think of depression we think of loss, disappointment and other feelings connected to our external lives.  That is actually what it is. John Douillard so eloquently says in his article on depression on the Kripalu website, we operate from our hearts when we are children until someone hurts us and if we are sensitive the hurt is especially grave. When we are young we are naturally heart centered, which means that we embrace the world and everything in it as our home.  Animals operate this way all the time. When we are hurt by others, our heart and real self have been essentially devalued, and we feel an acute sense of loss. The loss we feel is an important one.  What we have experienced is an important rejection and a rejection of what is important. For most people, the rejection results in the creation of their “commercial” self, the self that is what is desired by others.  That way we will not inconvenience anyone with our real self. Part of us wants to revolt, and another part of us recognizes that we need others to survive when we are young.  And so our mind acts to keep us in a safe, unthreatening place, and we become half of what we could be – at best. How To Treat Depression With Ayurveda Ayurveda treats depression differently and in doing so helps highly sensitive people see their symptoms in a different light.  As John Douillard says, “Simply put, depression occurs when a person loses access to the essential Self as a result of this barrier. For … Read More

How To Beat Triumphalism And Heal Emotional Wounds

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Emotional wounds are very difficult to heal. They are even harder for highly sensitive people to recover from. Have you ever wondered why that is? What Happens To Emotional Wounds? What is an emotional wound? An emotional wound is damage to our spirit and therefore our life force. It is an attack on our heart and soul. When we have an emotional wound it becomes part of our body and psychic system and stays there until healed. For highly sensitive people the healing process is longer than for others. We get hurt more often, we see the hurt in the world around us and can be overwhelmed by the damage being done. We can feel wounded and helpless. Our bodies can become littered with unhealed emotional wounds which can make it very difficult for us to function. As it is, we are already challenged by our sensitivity and stress levels so if we are harmed with emotional wounds, our health and well-being can be in serious trouble. Do You Reinjure Yourself? Emotional healing can be more difficult because we reinjure ourselves. Reinjury can happen with our intending it. The biggest cause of our reinjury and our greatest potential for healing comes from understanding the systemic nature of reinjury. I appreciate the need for acountability and responsibility, however, we cannot heal unless we know what we are up against so that we can take constructive action. What we are up against is an approach to life called triumphalism. What Is Triumphalism? According to Wikipedia Triumphalism is the attitude or belief that a particular doctrine, religion, culture, or social system is superior to and should triumph over all others. Triumphalism is not an articulated doctrine but rather a term that is used to characterize certain attitudes or belief systems by parties… Triumphalism, then, is a group attitude shared by the … Read More

Embrace Respect: It’s Good For Your Health

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health, Personal Development, Stress0 Comments

Respect is something we all want. Even HSPs. Why is it so elusive? Why Respect Is Important Respect is so important for our well being that we feel our positive energy grow when around it and we feel our energy become depleted when we are disrespected. For highly sensitive people, the issue of respect is particularly acute since we are frequently disrespected for our “soft” values and gentle, non-aggressive personalities. Whether we are accepted or not, we still need to experience respect – not just be someone that others put up with. We all want to be well regarded by the people in our life and also to be able to look in the mirror and be happy with ourselves. Because the HSP nervous systems is so easily stressed, we also need to be aware that disrespect damages our health and as a result our ability to function well. It creates emotional injury and more stress for us to deal with. On a long term basis disrespect will make us ill. Implications Of Respect Respect has important benefits: it helps us open to the world it makes us open to listening to others it helps create trust it helps us have confidence in ourselves it creates space for mutual problem solving it creates a feeling of safety it lets you receive it lets you give it helps you to relax it helps to feel one with the universe it helps you heal it helps you forgive it is necessary for love it helps you feel happy it helps you be present rather than want to escape the present it helps you to be with whatever you are involved with so persistence becomes easier it helps you feel less needy so you are more satisfied Respect is so important that people spend their entire lives … Read More