Freedom Is Its Own Reward

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health, Personal Development0 Comments

Who doesn’t want freedom? After all, freedom is such a wonderful sounding word. I think there is a lot of confusion about freedom so I thought it was worth some discussion. What Is Freedom? Merriam Webster has a fairly complete answer to what freedom is: 1 :  the quality or state of being free: as a :  the absence of necessity, coercion, or constraint in choice or action b :  liberation from slavery or restraint or from the power of another : independence c :  the quality or state of being exempt or released usually from something onerous <freedom from care> d :  ease, facility <spoke the language with freedom> e :  the quality of being frank, open, or outspoken <answered with freedom> f :  improper familiarity g :  boldness of conception or execution h :  unrestricted use <gave him the freedom of their home> 2 a :  a political right b :  franchise, privilege Freedom, then, can be categorized as a function of agency, status and receptivity as in being open to new ideas.  What Gets In The Way Of Freedom? Why is freedom so illusive? Even in the “free world” many people do not feel free. There can be many reasons for this since we are all somewhat different from each other and have differences in experience and capacity. Whether you are highly sensitive or not, you may have experienced freedom or the lack of it. As the definition shows, freedom is both an external state and an internal one as well. We have all heard of people who have external freedom who are unhappy and lack inner freedom. And the opposite as well, individuals without the status of freedom who find inner sources of freedom. But this is not a lecture about spirituality and letting go and all of … Read More

The Secret Benefit of Emotional Healing

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health0 Comments

Are you stuck in your emotional healing? Do you keep falling down? Do you ever wonder what there is for you when your healing is complete? Does Emotional Healing Ever End? Emotional healing can seem like a never ending process for a reason. Emotional healing focuses on a problem: you are the problem your parents are the problem society is the problem other treat you like the problem life is a never ending problem And so you drown in problems, some of your own making, many not of your making. What doesn’t seem to get questioned is the view of life as just a series of problems. Is that all that is – really? No wonder everyone is so depressed. What a depressing view of life! Changing How We Frame Our Experience The magic in life begins when you stop treating life as a problem or series of problems. Have you ever noticed how whenever you seem to have one problem solved, another pops up? Have you ever noticed how often you frame your experience in terms of problems? Could you be attracting problems because that is how you frame your experience? Suppose we were to change how we frame our experience? Can we of life as being more than a series of problems? Beyond Problems Life isn’t just about our problems. If we take a long view of human history, we will notice that yes, we have a problems, but look at how far we have come! Look at all that we have created that enables us to survive and thrive. So is it the problems that we are all about or perhaps what we have created that we are all about. The Easiest Path To Emotional Healing The easiest way to heal emotionally is to drop our problems especially as the purpose of … Read More

Time And Space

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health, Personal Development0 Comments

Creative Commons License Photo by Peter Alfred Hess photo credit: Peter Alfred Hess More and more I have been thinking about the relationship between time and space. They have a very direct relationship.  The more attention you pay to time the less attention you pay to space. They are two very different values. They are also two antithetical values. What Makes Time And Space Clash? Western cultures operate on the belief that speed increases productivity and is a way to challenge limits. Speed forces focus and resources to one objective. Speed is force. Time, or perhaps better speed which is fast time, creates an alternate reality. Speed increases intensity and forces us to compress our effort and attention into a small space of time. When we increase our intensity we are burning up our own resources – physical, mental and emotional. We are consuming ourselves. Speed consumes the space of our attention as well and in doing so removes other matters from our attention. Emergencies then become the highest claim for our attention. The easiest way to control the human agenda is through emergency. It controls the social space and attention space, and shoves simpler, often more important considerations to the side. Speed And Creativity Some people think that by going fast you can bypass the critical mind and negative programming and therefore makes you freer. Essentially, speed is being used to shut out parts of ourselves that are wounded or unhealthy to increase our productivity and creativity.  We are shutting out parts of ourselves through speed. There is validity to these methods; however, it seems unfortunate that we have to deny an important part of ourselves to be creative. Whenever we treat a part of ourselves as the “enemy” we lose an ally for our creativity. There is always a price … Read More

6 Reasons Why We Need Highly Sensitive People

Maria HillCreativity, HSP Traits2 Comments

Why do we need highly sensitive people? HSPs make up approximately 20% of the population. They are people whose nervous systems are highly sensitive to external stimuli. Books like Elaine Aron’s The Highly Sensitive Person and Susan Cain’s book Quiet, are helping us to understand more about the quieter members of our world. Our culture is predominantly as an extrovert culture. Extroverts are outgoing. An extrovert culture promotes the seeking of rewards, prestige and power. Interestingly, as many as 30% of HSPs are extroverts balancing their interest in the world with a higher need for rest and rejuvenation. Highly sensitive people are often introspective which provides them with an insightful perspective that is practical and useful. This is what they bring to us: highly sensitive people see what others do not. Our extroverted world is very fast however, speed often means mistakes. HSPs notice when the energy around them feels wrong. The insights from HSPs from what they notice can protect us from the mistakes of moving too fast. highly sensitive people are often deep thinkers. They may notice important overlooked factors in a particular situation. They can observe what is working and what is not, the connects and disconnects that can lead to eventual problems. They are able to notice pitfalls and potential land mines in our plans and strategies saving us needless headaches. highly sensitive people are holistic thinkers. This means that they offer an antidote to our fragmented society. Fragmentation increases the disconnection between different parts of a group, company, or an entire society. Holistic HSPs see and act as bridges between different parts of social or economic ecology to ease and improve problem solving. HSPs have a capacity to handle complexity because of their eneregtic sensitivity, deep processing and introspection that makes them ideally suited to helping a overloaded … Read More

Quiet by Susan Cain: Book Review

Maria HillHSP Traits0 Comments

If you haven’t read Susan Cain‘s fabulous book, the bestseller Quiet The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, you are missing out. Susan’s light approachable style takes a challenging subject and makes it accessible. Susan’s book not only explores introversion but also questions the extrovert ideal that dominates the Western world. Quiet is extremely well researched. Susan Cain draws on medical experts, sociological researchers and experts in the field of introversion and high sensitivity. She also does a masterful job of illuminating the experience and reality of many introverted people including herself to demonstrate the value they offer society. Most books on the subject of introversion or high sensitivity focus primarily on the psychology of the introvert. The daily living needs and survival challenges of introverts have been under addressed in our culture and many introverts have felt like aliens from another planet unable to navigate the challenges of extrovert values and expectations. Susan’s book does a wonderful job of juxtapositioning the extrovert and introvert natures and offering perspective on the differences. Although extroverts are more visible in the public domain, it is amazing how many great advances for the human race come from introverts: Rosa Parks Abraham Lincoln Bill Gates Warren Buffett Einstein many artists many of the strongest and most effective CEO’s. Introverts are often the creators and agents of change through their combination of compassion and creativity. They see what others do not which is why an introvert is known for being insightful. Introverts operate deeply and multidimensionally which makes the high-pressure, high-speed competitive economy of Western capitalism antithetical to their natures. As Susan points out, introverts need to be careful about their career and social choices because their nervous systems require considerable rest. However, she also describes many situations where introverts are able to adopt some … Read More

How Living In The Question Creates Freedom

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health, Personal Development0 Comments

  There has to be a better answer. At least that is what I keep telling myself. For the longest time I have asked myself why there is so much misery in the world and what can be done to change it. Much of our misery seems to revolve around getting and having or not getting and not having. In other words, it is comes from our perception of deprivation. We have had many answers to deprivation in our human history, but often they fall into one of three categories: do without and learn to like it indulge yourself consume moderately which is a little of everything, no extremes of self denial or self indulgence. I am not pointing in a spiritual direction with this post. I am raising practical considerations regarding material existence, how to live our lives and how to live with each other. I have often thought that there is a problem with being focused on answers. Too frequently we reach for them quickly without the process of discovery that can lead to great problem solving. Our answers often take on a life of their own as an approach to life, and so can do us more harm than good. I don’t think we get off so easy as to have a fixed answer to life challenges for a number of important reasons: Answers adhered to religiously do more harm than good.  They cause us to respond to a situation as a threat to our answer. Blind loyalty to answers reduces cooperation by closing off the intelligence and experience of others.  Whenever I am around someone who operates from their answers, I can feel that I have been shut out which is a very uncomfortable feeling. Answers expect a result.  They have no room for changes of … Read More