What Happened To Play?

Maria HillCreativity, Emotional And Mental Health, Personal Development7 Comments

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  What happened to play? Did you make mud pies when you were a child? Perhaps you spent time in a playground or a sandbox. Did you build castles in the sand? What happened to the joyful spirit of play in your life? Enter Insecurity I was raised in a conservative environment so work and conditioning started at a young age. I am not good about being indoctrinated so I noticed when anyone tried. To this day, I notice. However, the forced creation of fear and insecurity has an effect whether you like it or not. It causes sadness, pain and loneliness. And insecurity. I experienced all of those things. The fear world causes us to pull back and stop fulling engaging with life out of normal self-protection. When that happens a part of us dies a little bit at a time. Who Gets Hurt? Children are known to be sensitive to the hurt in others. Many comfort those around them who are in pain. They are not, however, sophisticated in understanding the source of that pain. How many of us are taught that if we are not obedient and quiet, we are a source of pain to others? How many of us are taught that when we are joyful we are hurting others? How many of us are taught that happiness is something we earn? How many of us are taught that curiosity is bad? How many of us are taught that our creative, fully alive spirit is too much? How many of us are taught that the more alive we are, the more of a burden we are? No Room For Play Trial and error is how we learn; it is how we become strong. So when we slowly close the door on play, we disempower ourselves and … Read More

How An Empathetic Nature Can Block Creativity

Maria HillCreativity, Personal Development10 Comments

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We HSPs are famous for our empathetic nature. We are also often creative. Often we are also creatively blocked. Is there a relationship? Can our empathetic nature get in the way of creativity and block it? Empathy Is Precious I personally treasure empathy. Not just for its humanitarian value, but because it is also a great tool for discovery. Empathy is a great way to learn about the world. It enables you to look at anything from another point of view. It also helps you with all the information that your nervous system takes in. Being empathetic helps you relate to the energy of each piece of information and if it is a multifaceted energy, you can engage all of it. It also lets you into the complexity and nuance of anything. You are able to perceive the dynamics and structure of anything around you. Empathetic listening is a holistic window to the world and so offers HSPs the potential for a special kind of wisdom that only insight can offer. The Price Of Being Empathetic Empathy can cause us to feel like we are drowning in information. It can feel like we are being overwhelmed with so many factors and considerations that it can be hard for us to move forward. Many HSPs, myself included, like to process every input conscientiously before making decisions and taking action. Hurting someone else is anathema to many HSPs; the pain is too unbearable. As a result, our awareness can become a huge burden. Our sense of responsibility may far outweigh our actual or real role or responsibility. Our skills may not necessarily be up to the information we take in. All of this, of course, forces us to try to come up with ways to handle the overwhelming information, but nonetheless, it … Read More

Let The Creative Process Help You To Achieve Your Goals

Maria HillCreativity, Personal Development10 Comments

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Do you get stuck when trying to move forward? Are you creating but still find that you can flounder or use your momentum? Do you wish you could find an easier way to make the life that you seek? Why It Helps To Embrace The Creative Process Creating can be a difficult and confounding process. We often take one step forward and another back. It can be hard to understand why that is. So we look into our childhoods, our belief systems and all sorts of corners of our psyche to figure our what is getting in our way. According to Robert Fritz, author of The Path Of Least Resistance and Creating in addition to many other books, The problem is not in our psyches it is in the structural system that dominates our lives. What Is The Creative Process? Many of us have mistaken ideas about the creative process. The creative process is NOT about coming up with ideas. The creative process is NOT about concepts. The creative process is NOT about finding yourself. The creative process is NOT a form of personal salvation. The creative process IS a structure that lets you create. The creative process IS a way to remove irrelevant considerations from your creating – whatever your creating is about. The creative process IS a way to move from where you are now to your creative goal. What Is Irrelevant To Creating? In creating the only thing that matters is what you want to create, and how you are going to get from where you are not to what you are trying to create. It does not matter what I think or what you family and friends think. It does not matter what your religion or political affiliation is. It does not matter what the weather … Read More

The Value Of Tension

Maria HillCreativity, Personal Development, Stress6 Comments

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  I think tension can be good. It is not my favorite thing in life, and as a highly sensitive person it can be challenging, but it  has also made my life better in some ways. Tension Seeks Resolution Tension seeks resolution is truth that I have learned from Robert Fritz through his class, Structures, which teaches how to use the creative process to create what you want in life. One thing I know about as a highly sensitive person is tension. Like many other HSPs who have nuanced perceptions, I often see what others do not, which naturally creates tension. It leads to a lot of questions: What do I do with what I see? What do I say? What is my responsibility? When do allow events to unfold without interfering? When should I intervene? These are all hard questions for a highly sensitive person to answer. Even harder when it feels constant. Is Tension Dangerous? I have experienced tension my whole life so I almost feel like an expert on it. When I was young others in my life promoted the idea that tension was bad, that it was a sign that something was wrong. So if someone else was unhappy I was the cause. It meant that I was creating pain and unhappiness for others, which as an HSP I did not want to do. I found this thinking to be a little crazy since I could only do my best and you can’t read anyone else’s mind. Nonetheless, I lived in an environment where there was an expectation of constant pleasure. The weird thing was that in spite of all these desires and demands everyone was miserable and it did not take much to upset someone. As a creative HSP that was a huge problem since I do not know … Read More

Embrace Your Inner Troublemaker!

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health, Personal Development, Stress6 Comments

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Being a troublemaker is not something we necessarily associate with highly sensitive people, those gentle souls who are loath to hurt others. The label, troublemaker, is not something that we usually generate for ourselves either. It is usually conferred by others when they encounter something uncomfortable in themselves courtesy of another person. Have you ever been called a troublemaker or treated like one? Highly Sensitive And A Troublemaker? Highly sensitive people are usually very conscientious, cautious, perceptive and empathetic. Highly sensitive people often see what others cannot because they operate from an atypical perceptual reality. When people think differently, many assume that is is an ideological difference that is being expressed. In the case of HSPs, however, what is being expressed is a biological difference. Highly sensitive people have nervous systems that absorb all the stimulus and energy around them. Their nervous systems are like sponges, which makes them uncomfortable and other people as well. Highly sensitive people notice when someone is uncomfortable, sad or angry no matter how much someone attempts to hide their feelings. They notice when something is not working very well, differences in perception and reality, mistakes of judgment and an other energetic event. Highly sensitive people necessarily have values that support their sensitive natures including kindness and fairness. They are able to see the pitfalls in a competitive social structure and are unlikely to support the destructive aspects of it. People who do not understand the highly sensitive nature may feel uncomfortable around HSPs and even think of them as troublemakers. Characteristics Of Troublemakers Why would anyone be labeled a troublemaker? Aren’t we all in this together? The label suggests that there is something to protect against. It suggests that the group is dependent on the existence of certain behaviors, beliefs and ideas to sustain … Read More

Duality And The Mastery Of The Exquisite

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  Duality is something that many of us embrace as a way to develop perceptual sophistication. You know… …love vs. hate… …light vs. dark… …yin vs. yang… …good vs. bad… …masculine vs. feminine… It’s a start! Duality Can Be Like Fool’s Gold Discovering duality can be exciting. It is a way to start to grapple with the world. We can see differences and we have a way to think about them. We have a way to make sense of what we see and feel. We are in control! Too many people treat duality as the last word on reality when it is really just the tip of the iceberg. It is not the last word in our quest for perceptual honesty and truth. It is only the beginning. Duality Is A Window Duality is like a window. It is a way to begin to understand differences. But differences are not fixed. They exist in relation to other characteristics and contexts. So duality is not a way to understand something concrete. It is how we begin to understand factors that are always changing. Duality gives us an opening to learn about and understand the energy of differences. It lets us be with differences so that we can begin to understand their value. Light is not just one value, and dark is not just one value. Each offer us many rich variations and different levels of opacity, intensity, and subtlety. When we engage with dualities we can begin to see what we miss. Holding The Tension Of Dualities The creative process provides us with a tension between what we want and where we are currently. When we hold the tension between the two, possibilities then show themselves to us. The same is true with dualities. When we hold light and dark together … Read More