Meditation Increases Self Discipline And Self-Acceptance

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health, Health, Personal Development0 Comments

You know the drill.  You are sensitive and therefore it is assumed that you are unstable. And so you get marginalized. After all sensitivity means you are not tough enough. It means you are unreliable. NOT SO! Researchers at the University of Toronto Scarborough discovered a link between sensitivity and self discipline in their study about meditation. The study demonstrated that meditators were more accepting of their emotions which impacted their performance. The Effect Of Meditation On Emotions “Willpower … may relate to ‘emotional intelligence’,” said Michael Inzlicht, associate professor of psychology at UTSC. According to the study, meditators were more open to their emotions. This “emotional intelligence” has a strong impact on the ability of an individual to be disciplined on tasks. When you meditate, and I am speaking from my 15+ years of experience with Transcendental Meditation, thoughts come and go. You do not attach to them. Sometimes they subside or stop. There is a flow to thoughts and feelings and the more you let the flow happen, the less likely you are to see them as part of your identity. When you detach your identity from your thoughts and emotions, it is easier to accept them as part of the flow of life. You then take thoughts and emotions less personally and you become emotionally freer. Meditation promotes emotional freedom so that you can apply your energy to a task and stay with it because your emotions are not getting in the way so much. Emotional Acceptance Trumps Mindful Awareness According to the article, ” the researchers asked participants about their experience meditating, and gave tests that measured how mindful they were of the present moment, and also how aware and accepting they were of their emotions. The researchers then hooked up participants to an electroencephalograph and gave them something … Read More

7 Baby Steps For Stress Relief

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When we are under stress particularly severe stress, we often want to run away from it because it is so painful. Highly sensitive people struggle more than others with stress because their nervous systems are so attuned to the world around them. We pick up every hurt and dissonance, take it in and then need to process it.  The hardest part is trying to make sense of it and find a resolution when it may be beyond our control to do so. We end up not only in pain but also feeling helpless and disempowered. There is no easy solution to these problems.  But there are some steps you can take to help yourself.  Sometimes when we try to handle our stress we go to our heads when our bodies and souls are hurting.  Sometimes we reach for the ice cream or a pill.  There is no easy answer for an awake heart.  But it is our treasure and gift.  We need to see it as a shining jewel inside of us, one that is meant to be shared. Treasuring our hearts also means respecting their limits and setting healthy boundaries which sounds so easy but is a challenge for highly sensitive people with their big hearts. One way to improve your stress is to take baby steps to reduce it. Here are some ideas: meditate daily.  It helps heal stress and supports a healthy nervous system, particularly Transcendental Meditation. get exercise, since it is a great stress reducer and help protect you from disease. Yoga and walking are great choices. eat a stress reducing diet of whole grains, legumes, rice, vegetables and fruit. choose a vocation that is good for your heart. choose social companions that are also good for your heart. remove mean individuals from your life as … Read More

5 Ways That Meditation Is Changing My Life

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I had no expectations from my meditation. I started my practice 20 years ago after having moved from New Jersey to Virginia. We were living in an old farmhouse on a large farm when I happened to see a presentation by Deepak Chopra on PBS about meditation. I was very curious. When it aired again, I showed it to my husband.  He was intrigued as well. In New Jersey we had started to investigate health for ourselves. We both worked long hours, traveled for our jobs, and felt tired a lot of the time. Our first health venture was to start juicing.  We sure consumed a lot of vegetable and fruit and it can be expensive!  Then we added vitamins and other supplements. All good as it goes. However I had a hunch that there was more to becoming healthy – that I was missing something. It was the Chopra show on PBS that set me on a different path. I remember that Deepak Chopra spoke about consciousness in his presentation. Perhaps he validated an experience I had at 18 while walking to a class at Tufts.  I was early morning on a beautiful, sunny fall day. All of a sudden I felt compelled to stop and at that moment I felt the unity of all things. I stood there for quite some time because I found the experience so compelling. I believe that experience was my first taste of the benefits of meditation. Fifteen years ago as a result of Deepak Chopra’s program, I decided to learn Transcendental Meditation and have been practicing it ever since.  I have to say that I have noticed changes in myself along the way. Some of the benefits are remarkable, but more often than not they are subtle. These are some of the benefits: … Read More

Self Pity And Grieving: 6 Ways To Feel Better

Maria HillEmotional And Mental Health12 Comments

Self pity and grieving are very different.  Self pity is the stuckness of despair. It can be a bitter feeling of longing for something you cannot have but need. Often what we want does not seem like too much to ask, which is why self pity can be so painful. Sometimes it feels like the end of the world. Self Pity And The Loss Of The Self Self pity can be very difficult to handle not only because it can be tied to our dreams but also because it can be tied to the expression of the good in ourselves and our natural drive toward self actualization. So when our dreams – even the simple ones –  do not come true a part of us often loses its optimism and resilience. Self pity is often the loss of our idea of our best self.  Self pity is also funny in a way. No matter how worked up we get about how the world has done us wrong, and often it has, it always makes us feel worse. Whatever the problem is does not get better with self pity, so hurting ourselves or someone else never helps. Self pity can cause a lot of harm and often feels as if it simply adds to our loss. Differences Between Self Pity And Grieving Grieving is different. Grieving is about the loss of something or someone we have had. When we grieve we feel the absence of something that lived in our hearts and lives. Grieving is often about a passing of someone or something from our lives as a chapter ends and another begins. Grieving is sad but does not come with the same desperation of self pity. Self pity can occur when we lose something we never had a chance to have. An … Read More

Meditation Heals Traumatic Stress

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    Have you developed a meditation practice for yourself? I have meditated now for almost 20 years and it is one of the best things I have done for myself. Like many HSPs, stress has always been a problem for me. Meditation is one of the few things I have found that provides serious help. Traumatic Stress Required Healing Many HSPs not only suffer from serious debilitating stress but also the traumatic stress caused by abuse. All the the violence  including verbal and emotional violence in our world causes a tremendous amount of suffering especially for highly sensitive people because it can take a lot of time for us to recover from a traumatic experience. Unfortunately, in some situations, people do not recover, the traumatic damage is too great. Many Forms Of  Traumatic Stress Any form of trauma can create serious and long-lasting traumatic stress. All forms of childhood abuse, assault and any other form of violence, and bullying can create deep long lasting emotional and mental pain. The worst, of course, is war where violence is a constant for a long period of time, which is why a new study is so valuable for all trauma sufferers. Meditation Helps PTSD It is very useful to understand what treatments benefit those who have suffered the worst forms of abuse, since they can often help those whose injuries are milder. According to a recent 2008 study of five Iraq/Afghanistan veterans who has served up to two years and experienced moderate to moderately heavy fighting, meditation was able to relieve their PTSD symptoms. According to the release by the Behavioral Medicine Report, the study was conducted by Norman Rosenthal, M.D., a clinical professor of psychiatry at Georgetown University Medical School and director of research at Capital Clinical Research Associates in Rockville, Maryland. Dr. Rosenthal … Read More

Inner Peace For You And Me: A Review Of “Shortcuts To Inner Peace”

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  Do you think inner peace is for people with easier lives, people who are not sensitive like you? You can’t afford a retreat? Don’t have time to sit for hours in meditation? Well, I have good news.  Here is a book that makes inner peace accessible for everyone. I have read the book, Shortcuts To Inner Peace 70 Simple Paths to Everyday Serenity by Ashley Davis Bush which is a recently published book which offers simple exercises to help people find inner peace in everyday life. What is nice about it is that it is not shortcuts in the way we usually mean them.  These “shortcuts” are very simple exercises to intersperse throughout your day to make the path to inner peace easier. Ashley Davis Bush is a licensed psychotherapist and grief counselor living in Epping, New Hampshire.  The exercises that she created came from her own life experience of trying to find inner peace and also as an attempt to help people she met in her practice who found it difficult to meditate. Not only does she have a busy practice and large family of five children, but Ms. Bush also suffers from insomnia and panic attacks. The Shortcuts To Inner Peace book is divided into two main sections: Your Daily Thread which are serenity exercises designed to be combined with a specific regular daily activity.  Washing hands, having a cup of coffee, taking a shower, or stopping at a red light are just some of the activities around which the book offers opportunities to reduce stress and reclaim our inner wellness. Your Daily Thread includes sections on finding serenity in relationships and sensory experience. The Peace Portals is the second section of the book that focuses on serenity exercises for four aspects of our being: physical well being mental well being … Read More