The definition of bullying in its simplest form is coercion or intimidation. Coercion and shutterstock_8676973intimidation can come in many forms, physical, emotional, psychological, overt and covert. Whatever form it takes, bullying can only exist if there is overt or tacit approval for the abuse. Therefore, bullying is not just a individual person’s problem, it is a systemic problem as well.

In the past fifty years, there has been an increasing awareness of the problems caused by bullying and a concern that bullying is on the rise. Dan Olweus of Norway is one of the first people to develop a bullying prevention program. He also developed this definition of bullying;

“A person is bullied when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more other persons, and he or she has difficulty defending himself or herself.” He created criteria for understanding an action to be bullying and sponsored the Olweus Bullying Prevention Program.  He asserts that to be labeled bullying an action has to be aggressive, be recurring and involve an imbalance of power. Actions can be physical and non-physical. Often we do not think of words as actions, but they are, and their effects can be as traumatic as any other assault.

The Importance of Bullying for Highly Sensitive People

HSPs are naturally empathetic. They tend to have a more complex view of other people and because of their empathy are less likely to reduce others to a stereotype. It is a wonderful quality but can become a disadvantage when relating to a bully.

A bully is more single-minded. Bullies are predatory and survivalistic in their thinking. Basically the target of a bully is more or less nothing more than a means to an end for whatever need the bully may want. A highly sensitive person who brings sensitivity to their interaction with a bully can get lost in the manipulations of the bully and suffer because of their humane approach to the situation. It may be difficult to discover that there is no possibility of achieving a positive relationship space with a bully. If that bully is a relative or someone in a position of power as employers are, it can be an extremely difficult truth to face.

HSPs will likely have a definition of bullying that reflects their humane point of view, and that is good from a values point of view, however, it may not necessarily offer tactical solutions that can work. Now that there is more attention to this problem, highly sensitive people have more potential allies for obtaining help with bullying and should seek out others to help them with bullying situations. The statistics below demonstrate both the prevalence and awareness the problem.

Bullying Statistics

Statistics about adult bullying are hard to come by. We are fortunate, therefore, that the Workplace Bullying Institute (WBI) wrote and commissioned a study in 2010 on workplace bullying. The following are their findings from their website.

  • 35% of workers have experienced bullying firsthand
  • 62% of bullies are men; 58% of targets are women
  • Women bullies target women in 80% of cases
  • Bullying is 4X more prevalent than illegal harassment (2007)
  • The majority (68%) of bullying is same-gender harassment

Additional information can be obtained from their website: Workplace Bullying Institute

There have also been a number of studies of bullying in education. ISafe’s 2004
study of cyberbullying offers the following information:

  • 42% of kids have been bullied while online. 1 in 4 have had it happen more than once.
  • 35% of kids have been threatened online. Nearly 1 in 5 have had it happen more than once.
  • 21% of kids have received mean or threatening e-mail or other messages.
  • 58% of kids admit someone has said mean or hurtful things to them online. More than 4 out of 10 say it has happened more than once.
  • 53% of kids admit having said something mean or hurtful to another person online.
  • More than 1 in 3 have done it more than once.
  • 58% have not told their parents or an adult about something mean or hurtful that happened to them online.

Additional information can be obtained from their website: ISafe

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The definition of bullying in its simplest form is coercion or intimidation. Coercion and intimidation can come in many forms, physical, emotional, psychological, overt and covert. Whatever form it takes, bullying can only exist if there is overt or tacit approval for the abuse. Therefore, bullying is not just a individual person’s problem, it is a systemic problem as well.

In the past fifty years, there has been an increasing awareness of the problems caused by bullying and a concern that bullying is on the rise. Dan Olweus of Norway is one of the first people to develop a bullying prevention program. He also developed this definition of bullying;

“A person is bullied when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more other persons, and he or she has difficulty defending himself or herself.” He created criteria for understanding an action to be bullying and sponsored the Olweus Bullying Prevention Program.  He asserts that to be labeled bullying an action has to be aggressive, be recurring and involve an imbalance of power. Actions can be physical and non-physical. Often we do not think of words as actions, but they are, and their effects can be as traumatic as any other assault.

The Importance of Bullying for Highly Sensitive People

HSPs are naturally empathetic. They tend to have a more complex view of other people and because of their empathy are less likely to reduce others to a stereotype. It is a wonderful quality but can become a disadvantage when relating to a bully.

A bully is more single-minded. Bullies are predatory and survivalistic in their thinking. Basically the target of a bully is more or less nothing more than a means to an end for whatever need the bully may want. A highly sensitive person who brings sensitivity to their interaction with a bully can get lost in the manipulations of the bully and suffer because of their humane approach to the situation. It may be difficult to discover that there is no possibility of achieving a positive relationship space with a bully. If that bully is a relative or someone in a position of power as employers are, it can be an extremely difficult truth to face.

HSPs will likely have a definition of bullying that reflects their humane point of view, and that is good from a values point of view, however, it may not necessarily offer tactical solutions that can work. Now that there is more attention to this problem, highly sensitive people have more potential allies for obtaining help with bullying and should seek out others to help them with bullying situations. The statistics below demonstrate both the prevalence and awareness the problem.

Bullying Statistics

Statistics about adult bullying are hard to come by. We are fortunate, therefore, that the Workplace Bullying Institute (WBI) wrote and commissioned a study in 2010 on workplace bullying. The following are their findings from their website.

  • 35% of workers have experienced bullying firsthand
  • 62% of bullies are men; 58% of targets are women
  • Women bullies target women in 80% of cases
  • Bullying is 4X more prevalent than illegal harassment (2007)
  • The majority (68%) of bullying is same-gender harassment

Additional information can be obtained from their website: Workplace Bullying Institute

There have also been a number of studies of bullying in education. ISafe’s 2004
study of cyberbullying offers the following information:

  • 42% of kids have been bullied while online. 1 in 4 have had it happen more than once.
  • 35% of kids have been threatened online. Nearly 1 in 5 have had it happen more than once.
  • 21% of kids have received mean or threatening e-mail or other messages.
  • 58% of kids admit someone has said mean or hurtful things to them online. More than 4 out of 10 say it has happened more than once.
  • 53% of kids admit having said something mean or hurtful to another person online.
  • More than 1 in 3 have done it more than once.
  • 58% have not told their parents or an adult about something mean or hurtful that happened to them online.

Additional information can be obtained from their website: ISafe